This technique can be highly effective, but I advise against using it too frequently, especially with someone you're genuinely interested in for a serious relationship. When used improperly, this method can backfire and have the opposite effect, leading to the opposite of what you desire: pushing away the person you're trying to attract.
What is the Push Pull (Hot and Cold) Technique?
The "Hot and Cold" technique is all about creating a mix of behaviors to spark interest and attraction. Initially, you give her attention and charm her, building enough attraction for her to become intrigued and fascinated by you. You two get along well, spend time together, and may even share a kiss—but that’s not the point. Typically, during the first few meetings, you’ll just get to know each other, and nothing major will happen. The key is that you've successfully built attraction, and she’s starting to feel captivated by you.
But then, suddenly, poof—you vanish. You stop responding to her messages, answer her calls with indifference, and decline her invitations. You go silent for a few days. She’s confused because everything was going so well, and she doesn't understand why you're pulling away.
How This Technique Triggers Desire
Here’s where the magic happens: If you’ve generated enough attraction, she will start to feel your absence. She’ll wonder why you're behaving this way. If her self-esteem is a bit low, she might overthink things and wonder whether she's done something wrong. This uncertainty will fuel her desire for you even more, as she can’t figure out why you’ve disappeared.
This confusion creates a deep emotional reaction. She’ll start thinking about you constantly, and this only intensifies her feelings. This, my friend, is exactly what you want—creating passion and desire. She won’t be able to stop thinking about you.
The "Cool Off" Period: Timing is Key
After a period of "cooling off," I recommend not dragging this phase for too long—anything longer than a week can be too much. The maximum should be one week without contact, and the minimum should be three days. After this cooling-off period, return to her life as if nothing happened. Let her believe you’ve been busy with work, meetings, or personal issues—whatever it takes for her to understand that you're a busy and interesting person.
Once you’ve reappeared, continue engaging with her normally, but don’t overdo it. Don’t shower her with attention 24/7. Just be yourself and live your life, while also making time for her. After you’ve spent more time together and exchanged regular communication, you can repeat the process of creating space again.
The Second Round: Repeat with Caution
Now, you can start the "cool-off" process again, but this time, give her slightly more attention before pulling back. If she calls, answer with a neutral tone, explaining you’re having a tough week. If she calls again the next day, don't answer. If she messages you on WhatsApp, ignore it. If she sees you online on social media, don’t respond. Keep up this pattern, reducing the frequency each time. For example, after the first week, try five days, then four, then three. This will drive her even more crazy with longing.
Why This Method Works
The idea behind this technique is to create confusion in her mind, leaving her unsure of your true intentions. One moment you're warm and interested, the next you’re distant and indifferent. This back-and-forth creates a mental puzzle for her, and she won’t know how to interpret your actions. Sometimes, she may decide to move on, but when you reappear, the spark reignites, and she starts craving your attention all over again.
This method is most effective for men who can use it in moderation. It can work well with multiple women, but don’t overdo it with any single person. Eventually, even the most patient woman will tire of this game, and once that happens, no amount of charm will bring her back.
Use with Caution
If you’re interested in a serious relationship with a woman, or if you’ve met a truly exceptional woman, you can use this technique. But remember to use it carefully and sparingly.
Additionally, you can combine this strategy with a "2x2 method." For example, while you're letting one woman cool off, you can reconnect with another. This way, you won’t have trouble keeping things exciting and can keep your options open. Essentially, you’re juggling two women—giving one a break while focusing on the other.
The Limits of the Technique
This technique should only be used for casual relationships or romantic pursuits. If you abuse it too much, you'll start to develop a reputation as a manipulator, and eventually, women will catch on. This is especially true if you live in a small town where gossip runs rampant. Everyone will know your game, and it will backfire.
In conclusion, use this method wisely, and it can work wonders in your dating life. But always keep in mind that moderation is key to ensuring you don’t push things too far.
